Breathing
Its funny how it is the people you least expect it to be that know you the best - better than you Know yourself.
Actually, this isn't true.. At least not in this case. Because this is someone, who although Is not seen or spoken to often, is the one who probably pays the most attention. And this quiet observation has led them to know the feelings that aren't being acknowledged and the secrets that have never been shared.
It can be unnerving, having someone know what is inside of you before you tell them a single word.
You think "how dare they presume to know me so well" or "am I more transparent than I thought I was?"Generally speaking, people are not meant to know our innermost thoughts before we are ready for them to know.
Empathy can be jarring when not expected.
But it can also be the most wonderful sense of relief - having someone understand you without having to actually articulate what you hidden for so long. Recognizing that there IS someone in your corner, there IS someone who notices, there IS someone who cares lifts a self imposed burden that has been there for so long that You forgot it was not the norm.
This is all not to say that no one in life cares about you. There are always people around. But there is something about having that one person strip away the masks you have carefully manufactured over the years and seeing the real you, the one you have been too afraid to show the world. It can be hard to explain what this 'something' is; Others have called it love, others joy. I myself have called it a relief or an unburdening. It is all these things and more.
It is the ability to breathe again.
Actually, this isn't true.. At least not in this case. Because this is someone, who although Is not seen or spoken to often, is the one who probably pays the most attention. And this quiet observation has led them to know the feelings that aren't being acknowledged and the secrets that have never been shared.
It can be unnerving, having someone know what is inside of you before you tell them a single word.
You think "how dare they presume to know me so well" or "am I more transparent than I thought I was?"Generally speaking, people are not meant to know our innermost thoughts before we are ready for them to know.
Empathy can be jarring when not expected.
But it can also be the most wonderful sense of relief - having someone understand you without having to actually articulate what you hidden for so long. Recognizing that there IS someone in your corner, there IS someone who notices, there IS someone who cares lifts a self imposed burden that has been there for so long that You forgot it was not the norm.
This is all not to say that no one in life cares about you. There are always people around. But there is something about having that one person strip away the masks you have carefully manufactured over the years and seeing the real you, the one you have been too afraid to show the world. It can be hard to explain what this 'something' is; Others have called it love, others joy. I myself have called it a relief or an unburdening. It is all these things and more.
It is the ability to breathe again.
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